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Five Things to Prevent Burnout

6th July 2026/0 Comments/in Anxiety, Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, Insomnia, REBT, Uncategorised, Work Stress/by Daniel Fryer

Burnout prevention through rest and recovery in nature

 

Burnout prevention is far easier than burnout recovery. If you recognise the early warning signs and take action, you can protect both your mental and physical health. In this article, I’ll explain what burnout is, what causes it, and share five practical, evidence-based strategies to help prevent burnout before it takes hold.

What Is Burnout?

Burnout is a state of physical, emotional, and mental exhaustion. It develops when you feel constantly overwhelmed for long periods. We all experience busy times. However, when life becomes relentlessly demanding and you never stop to rest or recover, burnout can follow.

Burnout is more than everyday stress. It is often what chronic stress becomes when left unchecked. If you constantly have too much to do and never switch off, your mental and physical health can suffer.

Burnout syndrome became an official diagnosis in 2019. Until then, researchers viewed it mainly as an occupational phenomenon. Although work is a common cause, burnout can also develop in other areas of life. Caring responsibilities, perfectionism, and ongoing personal pressures can all contribute.

For more on burnout, including the latest research, please read my article on Psychology Today.

Common Causes of Burnout

Many factors can contribute to burnout, including:

  • Unmanageable workloads
  • Excessive working hours
  • Poor communication and support, both at work and at home
  • A poor or non-existent work-life balance
  • Extreme deadline pressures
  • Feeling that life is out of control
  • Poor coping strategies
  • Perfectionism
  • A catastrophising mindset
  • An excessive need for control

Burnout Signs and Symptoms

Burnout rarely happens overnight. Instead, it develops gradually. The early warning signs can be subtle, but they often become more severe if ignored.

Common burnout symptoms include:

  • Feeling tired all the time
  • Physical and emotional exhaustion
  • Losing enthusiasm for activities you once enjoyed
  • Reduced effectiveness at work and home
  • Struggling to deal with everyday tasks and problems
  • Feeling detached from people or activities
  • Sleep problems
  • Chronic stress
  • Self-doubt
  • Feelings of helplessness
  • Poor concentration

If you recognise several of these signs, act sooner rather than later. Burnout prevention is always easier than burnout recovery.

Most of us already know the foundations of good health. Eat a balanced diet, exercise regularly, and aim for consistent, restorative sleep. Those habits matter. However, the five strategies below directly target burnout prevention and help build long-term resilience.

 

The first thing for burnout prevention

 

Adjust Your Attitude

Managing your expectations is often just as important as managing your time. In many ways, one supports the other.

Watch out for beliefs such as:

  • I must always perform at my best.
  • I should be able to cope with everything.
  • I can’t let people down.
  • Terrible things will happen if I drop the ball.

Burnout often begins with demanding or perfectionist beliefs like these. When your expectations consistently exceed your capacity, burnout is rarely far behind.

Challenge these beliefs whenever you notice them. Ask yourself three simple questions:

  1. Is this belief true?
  2. Does this belief make sense?
  3. Does this belief help me?

Take the belief, “I must always perform at my best.”

It cannot be completely true. Nobody performs at their best all the time. We all make mistakes, falter, fail, and occasionally miss our own benchmarks.

You may prefer to perform at your best, and who wouldn’t? However, it makes little sense to tell yourself that you must. Life simply doesn’t work that way.

Although this attitude may sound motivating, it usually creates stress and pressure instead. Neither is a healthy long-term motivator.

Try replacing it with:

I like to perform at my best, but I don’t have to.

That statement is both realistic and helpful. You will still aim high because that matters to you. At the same time, you remove the unnecessary pressure that often drives chronic stress and burnout.

Why not reflect on these healthier alternatives?

  • I like to perform at my best, but I don’t have to every time.
  • I prefer to cope well, but I don’t have to cope perfectly.
  • I hope I don’t let people down, but there is no rule that says I never can.
  • Something difficult might happen if I drop the ball, but it won’t be terrible.

Key message: Challenge perfectionist and demanding beliefs before they lead to unsustainable behaviour. They are often the hidden drivers of burnout.

For a deeper exploration of these ideas, see my book The Four Thoughts That F*ck You Up… and How to Fix Them (Vermilion/Penguin Random House).

 

 

The second burnout prevention measure

 

Protect Your Recovery Time

We are not designed to be always on.

Every living system eventually breaks down without adequate recovery. High performers, perfectionists, and people pleasers often excel at sustained effort. Unfortunately, many struggle with rest.

Your nervous system needs regular periods of:

  • Rest
  • Reflection
  • Play
  • Connection
  • Sleep

Work-related stress remains one of the leading causes of sickness absence. Ironically, one of its biggest drivers is presenteeism. Many people stay constantly productive, permanently available, and reluctant to switch off.

The “first in, last out” culture often looks admirable. In reality, it increases the risk of burnout. People who never stop are more likely to experience stress-related illness, make costly mistakes, lose productivity, and eventually leave their jobs.

By contrast, people who arrive on time, leave on time, take regular breaks, and avoid checking work emails outside working hours are often healthier and more productive. They also tend to stay with organisations for longer.

Recovery is not the reward for hard work. It is what makes hard work sustainable.

Take proper breaks during the day, including a full lunch break whenever possible. Leave your desk, go outside, or change your environment. Read a book, attend a class, meet friends, or spend time doing whatever replenishes and rejuvenates you.

Remember, self-care is not an indulgence. It is an essential part of burnout prevention. Looking after yourself enables you to perform well, remain productive, and enjoy the things that matter most.

Key message: Self-care isn’t selfish. It is one of the most effective burnout prevention strategies you can practise.

 

The third burnout prevention measure

 

Just Say No

When used appropriately, the word “no” is one of the most powerful, positive, and life-affirming words in your vocabulary. Sadly, many of us struggle to say it.

Burnout is often caused not simply by the demands placed upon you, but by overcommitting to those demands. Many people find it difficult to:

  • Assert themselves appropriately
  • Delegate
  • Decline requests
  • Set healthy boundaries
  • Disappoint other people

Over the years, many of my clients have recognised this pattern in themselves. They often believe, “I mustn’t say no.” However, that belief is neither true, nor sensible, nor helpful.

Some have found themselves repeatedly manoeuvred into working late or helping friends when they desperately needed time alone. On the rare occasions they did say no, they apologised excessively, overexplained themselves, and still ended up agreeing.

Learning to say, “No,” or “No, I’m sorry, I can’t,” without lengthy explanations can make life much easier.

Remember, you have every right to:

  • Assert yourself
  • Delegate to others
  • Decline requests and invites
  • Set healthy boundaries with others
  • Prioritise your own wellbeing

Key message: Every “yes” consumes finite emotional and cognitive resources. Practise saying “no.” You may discover that nothing terrible happens when you do.

 

The fourth burnout prevention measure

Meditate

I’ve worked in mental health and wellbeing for more than 20 years. During that time, work has become more demanding, life has become increasingly busy, and many people feel they have fewer resources to cope. That is a difficult combination.

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: we are not designed to be always on.

Although modern life differs greatly from that of our ancestors, humans evolved with natural rhythms of activity, rest, and connection. Today’s constant connectivity often leaves little room for genuine recovery.

We all need to create moments of peace wherever we can because nobody else is going to create them for us.

For that reason, I believe everyone can benefit from learning meditation, self-hypnosis, or both.

Mindfulness of Breath

Meditation can foster peace, calm, and emotional balance. It benefits both your psychological and physical wellbeing while helping you manage stress more effectively.

One of the simplest forms is mindfulness of breath.

Your breathing is always with you. It provides a constant anchor that you can return to at any time.

Simply:

  • Close your eyes.
  • Focus on your breathing.
  • Give your full attention to each in-breath.
  • Give your full attention to each out-breath.
  • Engage all your senses.
  • Accept that your mind will wander.
  • Gently return your attention to your breath.
  • Repeat daily.

Top Tips

Breathe slowly and deeply. You may prefer to breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth, but there is no single correct way.

Instead, become genuinely curious about your breathing. Notice its rhythm, temperature, sound, and movement through your body. Allow yourself to become completely absorbed in the experience.

Most importantly, expect your mind to wander.

That is perfectly normal.

When you notice it has drifted, gently return your attention to your breathing without criticism or frustration.

With regular practice, your concentration will improve, and remaining present becomes much easier.

Aim to practise once or twice each day for five, ten, or twenty minutes, whatever feels manageable.

Self-Hypnosis

Hypnosis is an altered state of consciousness, similar to becoming absorbed in a good book or daydream. During this relaxed state, your mind becomes more receptive to positive suggestions.

Hypnotherapy uses this state therapeutically. It can help people manage anxiety, stress, and burnout, alongside many other difficulties.

Self-hypnosis simply means learning to guide yourself into this relaxed state before offering yourself positive, constructive suggestions.

If you’d like to learn more, my book How to Cope with Almost Anything with Hypnotherapy (Green Tree/Bloomsbury) explores the process in much greater detail.

For now, try the following:

  • Sit somewhere quiet.
  • Focus on a spot on the wall until your eyes begin to tire.
  • Close your eyes.
  • Slowly count backwards from ten to one.
  • Count on each out-breath.
  • Pause quietly when you reach one.
  • Repeat your positive suggestions silently.
  • Count back up from one to ten.
  • Open your eyes.
  • Reorient yourself before continuing your day.

Top Tips

Like meditation, self-hypnosis improves with practice.

As you count down, imagine your inner voice becoming slower and calmer. You might even picture yourself gently drifting deeper into relaxation.

When you reach one, simply trust that you have entered a relaxed state.

Helpful suggestions for burnout prevention include:

  • Every day, I am becoming calmer and more in control.
  • I am learning to relax, even when life feels stressful.
  • My energy is gradually returning.
  • I know when to work hard and when to step back.

Meditation and self-hypnosis are different techniques, but both encourage rest, recovery, and resilience.

Key message: Creating regular moments of peace through meditation or self-hypnosis is one of the most effective ways to manage stress and prevent burnout.

 

The fifth burnout prevention measure

 

Build a Life Bigger Than Work

One of the strongest predictors of burnout is identifying too strongly with a single role, whether that is the model employee, the perfectionist, or the people pleaser.

When your self-worth depends entirely on career success or the approval of others, every setback feels deeply personal.

Protective factors include:

  • Strong relationships
  • Hobbies
  • Spirituality
  • Time in nature
  • Community
  • Creative interests

There is far more to you than your job or your ability to help other people.

If those things matter to you, self-care becomes even more important. Burnout makes it much harder to perform well or support others effectively.

Invest in relationships with people who value and encourage you. Spend time on hobbies, or develop new ones if you’ve neglected them. Life is meant to include enjoyment as well as responsibility.

Creative interests and a sense of community both support long-term wellbeing.

Many people also find spirituality helps counterbalance modern stress. In positive psychology, spirituality is recognised as a character strength that can enhance wellbeing.

Spirituality doesn’t have to involve religion, although it certainly can. It may simply mean feeling connected to something larger than yourself. For many people, nature provides that connection.

Nature benefits both mental and physical health. Even twenty minutes outdoors can help lower stress and restore perspective. The more we connect with the natural world, the better many of us feel.

Key message: The more meaningful roles and interests you have beyond work, the more resilient you are likely to become.

 

Notice the Early Warning Signs

Burnout rarely appears overnight. If you notice any of the following signs, it’s time to put these burnout prevention strategies into practice:

  • Cynicism
  • Irritability
  • Emotional exhaustion
  • Reduced concentration
  • Loss of enthusiasm
  • Feeling trapped

Many people ignore these warning signs because they are still functioning. However, burnout prevention begins with awareness, not endurance.

 

Burnout Prevention Checklist

Before you leave, ask yourself:

  1. Am I expecting too much of myself?
  2. Have I protected enough recovery time this week?
  3. Do I need to say “no” to something?
  4. Have I created time to rest or meditate today?

 

Final Thoughts

Burnout is one of the defining challenges of modern life. It rarely develops simply because you work hard. More often, it results from working too hard for too long without enough recovery, flexibility, healthy boundaries, or balance.

Fortunately, burnout prevention is possible.

Challenge unhelpful beliefs. Protect your recovery time. Learn to say no when necessary. Create regular moments of peace through meditation or self-hypnosis. Finally, build a life that extends beyond work.

Small changes, practised consistently, can make the difference between surviving and thriving.

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The Perfect Pairing for Peformance, Productivity and Peace of Mind

7th December 2025/0 Comments/in CBT, Coaching, Goals, Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, Online Therapy, REBT, Stress, Work Stress/by Daniel Fryer
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Hypnotherapy Helps With Almost Everything

27th June 2025/0 Comments/in Anger, Anger Management, Anxiety, Bullying, CBT, Chronic Pain, Coaching, Confidence, Depression, Fear of flying, Gay, Goals, Habits, Health, Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, LGBTQIA, Men, Mental Health, Mind, Online Therapy, Online therapy, Pain Control, Web Therapy, Work Stress/by Daniel Fryer
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It’s Worth a Shot!

18th June 2025/0 Comments/in Anger, Anger Management, Anxiety, Bullying, CBT, Coaching, Confidence, Gay, Goals, Habits, Health, HR, Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, Insomnia, Jealousy, LGBTQIA, Men, Mental Health, News, Online Therapy, Online therapy, Positive Psychology, Psychotherapy, REBT, Relationships, Self-esteem, Stress, Web Therapy, Work Stress/by Daniel Fryer
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Five Things to Stop Stress in its Tracks

6th December 2023/0 Comments/in Anxiety, CBT, Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, Mental Health, REBT, Stress, Work Stress/by Daniel Fryer
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Online Hypnotherapy: Will it Work for You?

19th October 2023/0 Comments/in Anger, Anger Management, Anxiety, CBT, Confidence, Depression, Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, Mental Health, Online Therapy, REBT, Self-esteem, Skype Therapy, Web Therapy/by Daniel Fryer

 

Online Hypnotherapy: Effective and Accessible Across the UK

A few weeks ago now, I wrote an article for Psychology Today on the benefits of online therapy and how studies show that it is as effective as psychotherapy delivered face-to-face. Since that article went live, I’ve had several emails asking if this also applies to hypnotherapy. The short answer is: “yes.”

The Rise of Digital Hypnotherapy

During the pandemic, hypnotherapists had to switch their clinics to an entirely online model, whether clients liked it or not. Since then, like other therapy forms, some therapists have remained fully online, while others offer both face-to-face and web-based sessions.

Although official studies on digitally delivered hypnotherapy are limited (at least as far as I know), some research is promising. One study showed effectiveness in treating migraines, while another suggested it helps children with nocturnal enuresis, or bedwetting.

Anecdotally, a magazine editor wrote positively about her experience with online hypnotherapy, while another described the joys of a FaceTime Hypnotherapy session. Many successful hypnotherapy apps now allow you to benefit from suggestions via smartphone or tablet.

Also, I am listed with the Hypnotherapy Directory and they are firmly in favour of it.

My Experience Delivering Online Hypnotherapy

From my own experience, online hypnotherapy works just as well as in-person sessions. I’ve been delivering digital hypnotherapy for years, long before the Coronavirus pandemic forced the first UK lockdown in March 2020.

Early in my career, about 19 years ago, a client asked to continue sessions while traveling across Europe for work. I conducted sessions in hotel rooms, once by a large empty pool, and another time on a patio overlooking a glorious mountain. Back then it was Skype rather than Zoom, but the variety of backdrops did not hinder our work together.

Choosing Between Online and Face-to-Face Hypnotherapy

Ultimately, the choice between online or in-person hypnotherapy comes down to preference. Some clients opt for digital sessions due to convenience or other constraints, while others prefer seeing their therapist face-to-face.

Reasons to choose online hypnotherapy include convenience, flexible scheduling, work-life balance, access to therapists in London, Bristol, or nationwide, comfort at home, mobility issues, and more.

Benefits of Web-Based Hypnotherapy

Web-based hypnotherapy is effective for many issues, including stress (life, work, burnout syndrome), anxiety disorders, reactive depression, anger management, self-esteem challenges, weight control, and pain management.

Preparing for Your Online Session

If you are considering digital hypnotherapy, keep a few things in mind:

  • Ensure your internet connection is stable so every hypnotic suggestion is delivered clearly.

  • Choose a larger screen; laptops or tablets work best for optimal visibility.

  • Sit in a comfortable chair to support deep relaxation.

  • Keep a blanket nearby if you prefer warmth and coziness.

  • Use high-quality speakers or headphones for precise audio.

  • Select a safe, private, and secure environment to maintain confidentiality.

Also, consider the severity of the problem. For high-risk cases involving suicide or self-harm, one-to-one live therapy with a nearby therapist and a clear care plan is essential. Mild-to-moderate issues, however, are well suited to online hypnotherapy.

Online Hypnotherapy and REBT in London, Bristol, and Beyond

If you would like to see me for online hypnotherapy—or online rational emotive behaviour therapy (REBT)—my contact details are at the bottom of this page.

Finally, REBT is an elegant form of cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) that works well for stress management, anxiety, confidence issues, and more. It can be used alone or alongside hypnotherapy.

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Everybody is Stressed, but What Can You do About it?

3rd October 2023/0 Comments/in Addictions, Alcohol, Anger, Anger Management, Anxiety, CBT, Chronic Pain, Coaching, Confidence, Depression, Goals, Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, Insomnia, Mental Health, Mind, Online Therapy, Panic Attacks, Panic Disorder, Phobias, Psychotherapy, REBT, Self-esteem, Skype Therapy, Stress, Work Stress/by Daniel Fryer

 

I’ve been a therapist now since 2004 and, for most of that time, when people asked me what I specialised in, I told them that anxiety disorders and work-related stress management were my forte but, on reflection, and for several years now, I would say that both life and work have made me a stress specialist.

That term still covers anxiety disorders and work-stress but, it also covers a whole lot more. Stress affects us all and we are becoming more stressed, not less so. In fact, research from the Chartered Institute of Development has found staff absences due to stress are at their highest levels in over a decade, with the pandemic, the high cost of living and other issues all being significant contributing factors, (click here). But what is stress?

According to the World Health Organisation, “stress can be defined as a state of worry or mental tension caused by a difficult situation.”

However, there are two types of stress: good stress (eustress) and bad stress (distress).

Eustress refers to the sort of challenge and pressure that you thrive under or rise to meet with excitement. It could be a work deadline, or a wedding, or a rollercoaster ride. Meanwhile, distress is what we often mean when we are talking about ‘stress.’ It can refer to seemingly insurmountable pressures in any context (life or work), pressures that you feel you can’t cope with, or are not dealing with as well as you’d like. But stress isn’t a diagnosis in and of itself. It’s an umbrella term for a variety of things including:

 

  • Anxiety
  • Reactive depression
  • Anger-management
  • Guilt
  • Shame
  • Procrastination
  • Insomnia (often stress related)
  • Skin conditions such as psoriasis (also often stress related)
  • Irritable Bowel Syndrome, or IBS, (nearly always stress related)

 

You can turn to unhealthy coping strategies when you are stressed, such as alcohol, drugs (both prescription and recreational) and comforting eating. Stress can wear you down, it can affect you physically as well as mentally. You can become distracted, less productive, more forgetful, and more prone to illness (stress affects your immune system). Chronic work stress even has its own diagnosis: Burnout Syndrome. This is a purely occupational phenomenon not official recognised until 2019 and characterised by exhaustion, increased negativity (or cynicism) towards your job, and reduced professional efficacy.

Stress is such as small word for something with so many distressing ramifications.

Stress affects both your mind and your body. A little bit of it is good for you, but too much stress can easily overwhelm you. And we are living in a very stressful world; one that doesn’t seem to be interested in getting any easier. Stress quickly mounts up and it soon takes its toll.

Thankfully, there are things you can do to help mitigate your stress, such as yoga, meditation, taking regular breaks, and going for long walks. And, if those things aren’t enough then therapy and coaching can help.

I practice rational emotive behaviour therapy (REBT) and clinical hypnotherapy, and both can help you mitigate your stress and build effective coping strategies in the face of it. With REBT and hypnotherapy the seemingly insurmountable obstacles in your daily live become something much easier to deal with.

So, if you think your stress is getting the better of you, feel free to book a call. I work face-to-face and online and can see anyone, anywhere (time zones permitting). And online therapy is just as effective as face-to-face, studies say so (click here).

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Hypnotherapy: Icebergs and Hidden Depths

3rd November 2019/0 Comments/in Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, Unconscious/by Daniel Fryer

 

Quite often in psychology they compare the mind to an iceberg in the ocean. It was Freud who originally came up with the analogy. But why, and what purpose does it serve?

 

Well, very simply put, there is about ten percent of an iceberg above the waterline. You can see it. But, there’s about 90 per cent of that iceberg hidden below the waterline, and you can’t see it. It’s what can make them quite tricky buggers (or bergs) to navigate.

 

And there are two parts to your mind (again, very simply put): the conscious and the unconscious, but it’s not a fifty-fifty split.

 

Which is where that analogy comes in.

 

Your conscious mind is like the ten percent part of the iceberg visible above the waterline. It’s responsible for all your short-term memory ‘stuff.’ It’s responsible for your everyday thoughts. It’s the part of you that remembers that appointment you have at 1.30pm (if you remember that appointment, that is) and that phone number you only need to use once. It’s also the part of you that remembers to pick up a loaf of bread on the way home from work because your other half asked you to (and, because it’s cheeky and not entirely reliable, it sometimes only reminds you of that just as you cross the threshold to your home). And it’s also the logical, rational and analytical part of your mind.

 

But, what about the hidden bit?

 

What is actually going on with the 90 percent of the iceberg below the waterline? What is your unconscious mind responsible for?

 

Well, the short answer is, “everything else.”

 

Right now, as you read this article, you are blinking and breathing and regulating your body temperature, together with a thousand other process that you don’t consciously think about: your unconscious mind simply takes care of the for you. But, it’s also the database of everything you are. Everything you’ve ever learned and experienced, all of your skills and habits and all that you have seen and done.

 

To put it into a context, a 2017 study by tech giant Huawei found that whilst the brain actually makes around 35000 decisions every single day, we’re only ever conscious about a hundred of them. Most of our daily decisions then are made by the unconscious. We are not consciously aware of them. That means there’s a hell of a lot going on with that hidden beneath the surface part of you.

 

Now, a very nice thing happens in hypnotherapy and it happens to your mind. Hypnosis itself is a trance-like state, very similar to nodding off, daydreaming or losing yourself in a really good book. In this nice-and-dreamy, trance-like state, your conscious mind becomes more passive. It kind of takes a back seat for a while. When that happens, the unconscious part of your mind (that big old database of everything you are) becomes more alert and receptive to positive suggestions.

 

Especially when those suggestions are tied to goals you already know you want to achieve.

 

So, in a hypnotherapy session, the hypnotherapist can communicate directly with your unconscious mind and suggest new thoughts, feelings, behaviours and ideas. And these suggestions take hold because you are motivated for change; they take hold because those suggestions are totally in line with what you want to happen and how you want to be.

 

Pretty cool, huh?

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Hypnotherapy: Why it is about the thing you think it isn’t actually about

20th October 2019/in Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy/by Daniel Fryer

I’ve been in practise as a hypnotherapist since 2004. Over those years, I’ve lost count of the amount of articles I’ve read on the subject, written by journalists who all seem compelled, somehow, to kick start said article by saying, “You’d be forgiven for thinking that hypnosis is all about swinging pocket watches and pendulums but, it’s isn’t.” And, by doing so, perpetuating the idea that, somehow, hypnotherapy is, or was at some point, all about swinging pocket watches and pendulums. Again, and again, I’ve read the same stereotype being perpetuated, for over thirteen years. Enough, already!

Now, I know what you’re thinking.

You’re thinking, “Hang on a minute, but isn’t he starting his article off that way too? The hypocrite!” Well, yes. Yes, I am. But and the point really needs to be made, finally and for the last time, so that it need not ever be mentioned again: Hypnotherapy is not about being hypnotised by a hypnotherapist with either a swinging pocket watch or a pendulum. Except.

Except.

Except, it can be.

I have a pocket watch. A friend bought one for me as a present when I graduated from hypnotherapy college. And I have hypnotised someone with it, once, but only because they asked me to. I’ve also hypnotised someone with a sonic screwdriver. Not a real one mind, but one of those £10.00 plastic replicas. But, that’s only because A: I had one in my possession at the time and B: the person concerned was a Doctor Who fan and was absolutely over the moon when I waggled it in front of him.

The point of swinging pocket watches, or pendulums, or Doctor Who sonic screwdrivers, or anything waved rhythmically, side to side, in front of someone’s eyes, for that matter, is to tire those eyes; to make someone want to close their eyes, preferably with some relief. “Thank god they’ve stopped waving that bloody thing in front of me,” they mentally sigh.

This is known as inducing trance. It is the first stage of hypnosis. Once someone’s eyes have closed, once a trance has been induced, it can be deepened to the appropriate level. Once it has been deepened to the appropriate level, the therapy part can take place.

You can also induce a trance but having someone stare at the palm of your hand, or the back of their hand, or a spot on the wall, or by holding their arm in the air, or by listening to the sound of your voice, or to a specific sound around them and more. All to the same point: inducing trance, getting someone to close their eyes and begin to comfortably relax.

So, to journalists everywhere, I say this: You’ll be forgiven for thinking that hypnotherapy is all about swinging pocket watches and pendulums because it can be. And, now that you know that, you need not ever kick off an article about hypnotherapy that way again. Much to the relief of actual hypnotherapists everywhere.

Now, do not get me started on that old, “look into my eyes, not around the eyes, in the eyes you’re under” malarkey.

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Anxiety Disorders: A Brief Overview

12th August 2019/in Anxiety, CBT, Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, Phobias, Psychosexual Dysfunction, REBT, Uncategorized/by Daniel Fryer

As a rule, I tend to specialise in the areas of anxiety disorders and work-related stress management. Between the two, I cover a multitude of sins. And, but sins I mean I help people deal with a series of emotional and behavioural problems that have them thinking, feeling and acting in ways that they don’t like but don’t seem to be able to change.

The term ‘anxiety disorder’ on it’s own could mean any one of several things up to and including, but not limited to panic attacks and panic disorder, social anxiety disorder, generalised anxiety disorder (GAD), obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), psychosexual dysfunction, health anxiety and any and all types of phobias.

Broadly speaking, anxiety is your response to danger; it’s the fight, flight (or freeze, for those of you who experience brain lock) response to a threat or a danger. However, this response is being triggered in situations that aren’t that dangerous. Coming across a hungry lion whilst walking down your street is very dangerous, whereas sitting an exam is not. However, if you have anxiety, the same thoughts and feelings are being triggered in the face of an exam as they are when confronted by that hungry lion.

Anxiety problems are the number one presenting symptom here in the United Kingdom

Panic Attacks

Panic attacks are an extreme type of fear response. They are an exaggeration of your body’s normal response to danger, stress or excitement. They’re not much fun

Panic Disorder

This is where you have regular or frequent panic attacks that don’t seem to have a specific cause or trigger. It can mean that you are so afraid of having another panic attack that the fear itself can bring on a panic attack. Not good.

Social Anxiety Disorder

This is where your fear response is being triggered by social situations, such as pubs and parties, work and networking events. Basically, anywhere you have to talk to another person. This is also known as social phobia and it’s more common than you think.

GAD

Pity the person who is living with this condition, for they are experiencing regular or uncontrollable worries about many different things across most aspects of everyday life. It could be that there are many, many triggers or no specific trigger at all, making GAD a tricky little bugger to pin down.

OCD

This problem is made up of two parts, an obsession and a compulsion. Obsessions are unwelcome and intrusive thoughts, images, urges, worries or doubts that repeatedly appear in your mind. The compulsions are repetitive activities that you feel compelled to do in order to reduce the anxiety caused by the obsession. It could be checking that a door is locked, or repeating a specific phrase in your head and so on. Some people have what is known as ‘Pure O’ where they have the obsession but not the compulsion. This does not make it any less distressing.

PTSD

This is an anxiety problem that gets diagnosed after you have gone through something that you found traumatic. A close brush with death or a violent attack on you or someone near you can do it. PTSD can cause flashbacks and nightmares that make you feel like you are reliving the fear and anxiety you experienced during the traumatic event again and again. Who said the mind isn’t your best friend?

Psychosexual Dysfunction

When related to anxiety, psychosexual dysfunction is the inability to become sexual aroused or achieve sexual satisfaction because you are afraid of something happening or something going wrong. The problem is not physiological it is psychological. It can affect both men and women and, obviously can be quite miserable and debilitating.

Health Anxiety

Perhaps unsurprisingly, this means anxiety about your health. You will have an obsessive preoccupation with the idea that you have (or are about to develop) an illness. Common health obsessions including cancer, heart health, HIV and so on, but people can become preoccupied with any condition. Behaviours include researching symptoms, constant checking to see if you have them and many, many, many visits to your local GP.

Phobias

A phobia is an extreme form of anxiety that can be triggered by a particular situation or object, even when there is no danger. The sufferer knows that their reaction is out of proportion to the danger but they just can’t stop themselves. People can becoming phobic about anything and everything: spiders, mice, lifts, heights, thunder and lightning, buttons, ships, you name it.

Other anxiety problems include performance anxiety (stage fright and exam fears, for instance), body dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) and more.

Thankfully, all forms of CBT are considered the gold standard of treatment for anxiety disorders. Hypnotherapy is also a highly effective adjunct to CBT. So, if you need to find a therapist to help you with your anxiety, look for someone who has CBT skills, or hypnotherapy skills, or both.

Obviously, there is quite a lot to digest here so I’ll leave the heady world of work-related stress (the number one cause of staff absenteeism) until next time.

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