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It’s Worth a Shot!

18th June 2025/0 Comments/in Anger, Anger Management, Anxiety, Bullying, CBT, Coaching, Confidence, Gay, Goals, Habits, Health, HR, Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, Insomnia, Jealousy, LGBTQIA, Men, Mental Health, News, Online Therapy, Online therapy, Positive Psychology, Psychotherapy, REBT, Relationships, Self-esteem, Stress, Web Therapy, Work Stress/by Daniel Fryer

Say hello to my single session therapy and coaching service . . .

Do you have a very specific problem in mind, one that is causing you stress but, that you can articulate well? Is there something on the horizon that you would like to prepare for, either physically or mentally? Do you describe yourself as highly motivated? Do you want to make rapid but significant changes and achieve your goals sooner rather than later?

If you have answered yes to any of the above, then One Shot might just be for you.

One Shot is a bespoke service available almost immediately, with no delays or waiting lists. If suitable, you and I agree to work together for one focussed session only. We work to resolve your immediate challenges and achieve your goals.

One Shot gives you help almost right there and then. It can give you clarity and focus. We draw upon your own innate strengths and inner resources, and give you a concrete plan of action going forwards.

It’s not just for people who have an immediate problem, or sudden challenge that needs addressing. It is also a great preventative; a way of heading things off at the pass. Therapy and coaching are so much better when used as prevention rather than reparation and repair.

With a One Shot session there are three points of contact overall:

Point one:

The initial consultation. This will be either over the phone or via Zoom and will last for approximately 15 minutes. This is where we decide if One Shot is suitable for you. If we agree that it is, we book the session and I send you a short questionnaire to be returned in advance of the session.

Point two:

The One Shot session itself. This lasts from one-and-a-half to two hours and can involve a combination of rational emotive behaviour therapy (REBT) and positive psychology, as well as hypnotherapy. The aim is for you to leave, not only with greater insight and understanding but, also, with several key points for you to act upon. You will be sent a recording of our therapy / coaching session, together with a copy of the hypnotherapy element (if this was included in your protocol). *

Point three:

A follow up call. Either a few weeks or months following the session (at a pre-agreed time and date) I will contact you and check in on your progress following the session. Here we can discuss various things, including possible improvements, and further requirements (such as a full course of therapy if wanted).

One Shot can help with:

Anxiety
Anger Management
Adjustment difficulties
Coping with change
Dealing with uncertainty
Relationship problems
Stress in all its forms
Personal development
Decision making
Preventative mental health care
Sudden life crisis management
Building better habits
Confidence and self-worth
And more

If you are interested in One Shot, please contact me either by email at info@danielfryer.com or via
WhatsApp on +44 (0)7947 310 052

* A PDF transcript of the session can also be provided upon request, but at extra cost.

Not So Crazy in Love

13th February 2020/0 Comments/in CBT, Humour, Jealousy, REBT, Relationships/by Daniel Fryer

Today, is February 14^th; Valentine’s Day, the day for lovers, the day for romance, the day for card companies, florists, chocolatiers, jewellers, and restaurants up and down the country to make you make the most of this day, come what may. Back in the day (my day, that is) you were lucky if you got a small card and a cup of tea in bed. Now, it’s nothing but pressure to perform, please and be more loved-up than thou (we can partly blame social media for the latter, but only partly). Basically, Valentine’s Day has gone and gotten all a bit crazy, when you think about it.

But then, love is not the most rational of emotions.

Enter then, Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT). Not only is it a form of psychotherapy but it is also considered to be a school of thought. This means that, while it is great for dealing with specific emotional problems such as anger, anxiety, depression, jealousy and so on, it is also (and at the same time) a brilliant way of looking at life and all of life’s problems in a whole new way.

This is important as irrationality surrounds us and penetrates us (a bit like The Force in Star Wars only crap), and it can bind us together in unhelpful ways if we are not careful.

With it, we can develop the tendency to blow things out of proportion, magnify their difficulty, throw our toys out of the pram and, generally, rush headlong into foolish decisions that we later regret.

REBT offers a way of stepping back a little, and of questioning a thought and the emotion it engenders, before you react (or overreact) according to it.

Once you start to question the validity and rationality of your thoughts, you will soon start to see just how silly life, and by default, our everyday language really is. Like, really, amazingly, off-kilter crazy.

This goes double for love songs.

To find out how truly ludicrous love songs actually are, to wise up to their irrationality, please read my new post over at Psychology Today (click here).

As you do so, whilst remembering that Valentine’s Day can be as restrained or as OTT as you allow it to become, it means that you can still be as romantic as you wish, but it also means you won’t be no fool for love (or any other emotion) again.

How’s that for heart-warming?

Men, Mental Health, Barbershops and Talking

9th June 2019/in Addictions, Alcohol, Anger, Anger Management, Anxiety, CBT, Confidence, Depression, Goals, Men, Mental Health, Psychotherapy, REBT, Relationships, Self-esteem, Stress/by Daniel Fryer

It’s good to talk, isn’t it? Male or female, young or old, it’s good to have someone to turn to in times of trouble, yes? And yet, despite the many inroads made in raising mental health issues, men still struggle with talking about their feelings, or reaching out if they’re in difficulty. Which is problematic to say the least. And, it needs to change, but how? Read more

Stop Saying Sorry (unless you mean it)

22nd April 2019/in Confidence, Goals, LGBTQIA, Men, Mental Health, Mind, Relationships, Self-esteem, Stress/by Daniel Fryer

Going against what Elton John famously sang, sorry doesn’t seem to be the hardest word at all. In fact, it’s thrown around every day and everywhere with a wild and empty abandon. And that is a sad, sad situation. Read more

Brand New Bristol Based Therapist

2nd November 2016/in Addictions, Alcohol, Anger, Anger Management, Anxiety, Bullying, CBT, Chronic Pain, Coaching, Confidence, Cyber Bullying, Depression, Fear of flying, Frontpage Article, Gay, Goals, Habits, HR, Humour, Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, Images, Insomnia, Jealousy, LGBTQIA, Men, Mental Health, Mind, News, Online Therapy, Pain Control, Panic Attacks, Panic Disorder, Phobias, Psychosexual Dysfunction, Psychotherapy, REBT, Relationships, Self-esteem, Skype Therapy, Stigma, Stop Smoking, Uncategorized, Unconscious, Web Therapy, Weight Control, Work Stress/by Daniel Fryer

Well, fairly new; well, sort of new. New-ish; okay, I moved here from London in January 2016 but, due to other work commitments, it’s taken me this long to sort a private practice out. However, I am a psychotherapist and I’ve been working as one since 2004. Read more

Why You Need to Give up Your Demands

20th June 2015/in Addictions, Alcohol, Anger, Anger Management, Anxiety, Bullying, CBT, Chronic Pain, Confidence, Cyber Bullying, Depression, Fear of flying, Frontpage Article, Gay, Goals, Habits, HR, Humour, Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, Images, Insomnia, Jealousy, LGBTQIA, Men, Mental Health, Mind, News, Online Therapy, Pain Control, Panic Attacks, Panic Disorder, Phobias, Psychosexual Dysfunction, Psychotherapy, REBT, Relationships, Self-esteem, Skype Therapy, Stigma, Stop Smoking, Unconscious, Web Therapy, Weight Control, Work Stress/by Daniel Fryer

In Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT), the form of Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) that I advocate, we say that your demands are at the root of your psychological disturbance. But, what is a demand exactly, and how does it disturb you? Read more

Gay Affirmative Therapy

9th April 2015/in Addictions, Alcohol, Anger, Anger Management, Anxiety, Bullying, CBT, Confidence, Cyber Bullying, Depression, Gay, Goals, Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, Jealousy, LGBTQIA, Men, Mental Health, Mind, Online Therapy, Panic Attacks, Panic Disorder, Psychosexual Dysfunction, Psychotherapy, REBT, Relationships, Self-esteem, Skype Therapy, Stigma, Web Therapy/by Daniel Fryer

The LGBTQIA community faces the same problems as everyone else. They also face problems that can be very different to those experienced by mainstream society. For various reasons, many prefer a therapist, if not of the same sexuality as them, then at least with a clear understanding of LGBTQIA issues. Many fear finding a therapist that is homophobic or one whose religious beliefs would conflict with their ability to help. Enter then, the world of gay affirmative therapy.

Do You Want to Feel like Spring has Sprung?

31st March 2015/in Addictions, Alcohol, Anger, Anger Management, Anxiety, Bullying, CBT, Chronic Pain, Confidence, Cyber Bullying, Depression, Fear of flying, Goals, Habits, HR, Humour, Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, Insomnia, Jealousy, Men, Mental Health, Mind, Online Therapy, Pain Control, Panic Attacks, Panic Disorder, Phobias, Psychosexual Dysfunction, Psychotherapy, REBT, Relationships, Self-esteem, Skype Therapy, Stigma/by Daniel Fryer

It’s Easter, a time for renewal, rebirth and resurrection, a celebration of new life and the passing of spring into summer. It’s also the time for a good old spring clean, literally, metaphorically, physically and emotionally. So, as the days get longer, brighter and warmer and as summer beckons, where do you want to start? Read more

Men: It’s Good To Talk To A Therapist!

26th February 2014/in Anger, Anger Management, Anxiety, CBT, Confidence, Depression, Goals, Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, Men, Psychosexual Dysfunction, Psychotherapy, REBT, Relationships, Self-esteem, Work Stress/by Daniel Fryer

According to the Office for National Statistics (ONS), male suicides are three times higher than female. And yet, women are more likely to seek out therapy than men. I’ve blogged about this problem before (click here). But, what can be done to help those who need it? Read more

Sex, CBT and Hypnotherapy: Boosting it in the Bedroom

13th February 2014/in CBT, Confidence, Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, Psychosexual Dysfunction, Relationships, Self-esteem, Stop Smoking/by Daniel Fryer

Superdrug, the health and beauty chain, are making a fortune out of red hot lovers up and down the country this week and estimate they’ve been dispensing one erectile dysfunction treatment every three minutes since Wednesday (with a 20 per cent surge in prescription requests this week alone). The store claims this Valentine’s Day will be the busiest in the history of its Online Doctor service. But, little blue pills are not the only solution for problems in the bedroom. Read more